Jolina Magdangal shared some of her Parenting Tips that can also help other Moms and Dads out There

The “Magandang Buhay” momshie host revealed that the parenting lesson that she’s really taking seriously is “the lesson of spending quality time with children.”

Moreover, when it comes to her parenting style, Jolina shared that she is more on the authoritative side.

Last October 29, the Kapamilya host-actress attended the launch of the newest campaign of Tiger Biscuits (Unveil #InnerSrength), and during the media interview, Jolina shared some of the essential parenting tips that she is practicing with her kids.

First on the list is “Time,” the celebrity mom said that she gives her children a lot of this. “Isa iyan sa mga natutunan ko na lagi kong shini-share kapag merong mga ganitong usapan,” she said.

She even recalled the time when she attended a school event of her son Pele, where there was one topic about the importance of spending time with your kids

“Nung time na Kinder 1 si Pele, may talk doon sa school nila. Nung nagkukuwento iyong founder ng school, talagang pigil na pigil ako pero naiiyak talaga ako… Ang sinabi nung founder, ‘Ang spelling talaga ng love sa anak ay T-I-M-E. Time,'” Jolina added.

Jolina went on to share that there was even a time she felt people were judging her for being with her son all the time. “Kasama ko siya palagi kasi bini-breastfeed ko si Pele. ‘Tapos iyong iba, tingin nila sa akin, ‘Lagi naman kasama iyong anak.’ Laging may ganon.”

“Pero sa aming mag-asawa, lagi namin pinag-uusapan, sabi ko, ‘Papa, paano kapag sinabi nila ganyan?’

“‘Tapos sabi ng asawa ko, ‘Huwag mo silang intindihin kasi ang gusto natin ay may time lagi tayo sa anak and ma-feel niya na kampi [tayo sa kanya].’Tapos nung narinig ko iyon sa founder, sabi ko talaga, ‘Tama iyong nagawa ko bilang nanay.'”

With all their efforts in providing him all the time and care he needs, they can now see the good side of it as Pele grow into a well-behaved boy.

“Nakikita ko na okay si Pele bilang individual. And ang makakapagpabusog pa sa puso ko ay hindi iyong nakikita mong okay siya, e. Kapag nakakarinig ako sa ibang parents na, ‘Ang bait ng anak mo.’ ‘Talaga ba? Ang kulit nga niyan, e.’ ‘Hindi, napakamasunurin niyan.’ May ganon.

“Kaya talagang, ‘Papa, buti na lang binigyan natin ng time si Pele.'”

Momshie Jolina has also learned that aside from spending quality time with kids, it is also important to have proper communication so that you can build a strong relationship with them.

She says, “Kausapin lang nang kausapin. Makakausap mo na talaga.

“Akala ko dati nung dalaga pa ako, kapag may nakikita akong mommy ‘tapos bata yung kinakausap niya, sinasabi ko, ‘Naiintindihan na kaya niya iyon?’ Pero nung nagkaanak ako, ang liit pa lang ni Pele, akala ko hindi ako pinapakinggan… pero nagulat ako after isang incident, bigla niya gagawin iyong sinasabi ko. So, nakinig siya at na-absorb niya.

For her part, Jolina shared that she wants her son to do and pursue the things he likes, that’s why paying attention to his needs and interests is really essential.

“Si Pele kasi, kapag nakikita ko na kapag pinipilit siya gawin iyong mga bagay na parang hindi pa siya comfortable..

“Makikita mo kasi kay Pele sa mata niya kung interesado siya doon, e. ‘Tapos magtatanong siya na magtatanong. Pero kapag hindi masyado, hindi ko na siya pipilitin pa doon.

“Like ngayon, meron silang ginagawa na online videos na magme-memorize siya ng kanta. Ayoko siyang pinipilit kung ano gusto niya.

“Basta ipe-play ko lang iyong music, ‘tapos mame-memorize na niya iyon. Pero kung alam ko naman na gusto niya, aaralin namin iyong lines.”

Another thing that the celebrity mom shared with her fellow parents out there is to stop comparing your own kids to other kids.

“Hindi ko siya kino-compare sa ibang bata. Hindi ko sinasabi na, ‘O siya, ang galing mag-smile, e ikaw?’ Hindi ko ginaganon.

Instead, she will praise him so that her son will be more encouraged to do better next time,

 “Lagi kong sinasabi, ‘You did good there, Pele. Very good ka doon, pero mas dagdagan natin next time iyong mga ganon.'”

She added, “Kahit gusto ko man bantayan sa school, hindi naman puwede, di ba? So, kailangan sa bahay pa lang, physically and emotionally equipped na sila. And saan ba magmumula iyon? Di ba, sa ating parents and saka sa loob ng bahay? At tayo iyong example para sa kanila.”

Jolina Magdangal married her husband Mark Escueta, who is also the band Rivermaya’s drummer. They now have two kids, 5-year-old son Pele Iñigo, and 1-year-old daughter Vika Anaya.

Source: pep